Pastor Carter preached a powerful sermon today about dealing with conflict. He compared conflict with a blister. Strangely enough, I got a blister on Saturday while helping my brother.
Blisters are a natural defense mechanism to protect the skin when an area gets rubbed to much. Friction causes blisters just like problems can cause irritation in our relationships and life.
Blisters are fine as long as the area gets proper treatment. But if a blister goes too long, it can become infected. The same thing can happen with a relationship if a problem is allowed to fester and amends is not made in time. The New Testament encourages us to be angry and sin not by quickly dealing with situations.
Proverbs 18:19 – An offended brother is more unyielding than a fortified city, and disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel.
People we offend can become very angry and unmerciful. That is why Jesus said it is better to settle a quarrel before you get to the courts because the other party will show no mercy if they feel offended.
Even worse, the offended can grow callous and hard as a way to protect against any future pain. This make it impossible for them to find complete healing and restoration. They may carry around burdens for years and be bound up in the process. Just like a blister, a rough spot can become tough. These areas can become numb with no ability to feel anything.
God wants to heal the broken hearted. He longs to restore unity of faith in the bond of peace. Most importantly, God desires to see His people come to wholeness as they let Him heal their wounded souls.